{"id":45015,"date":"2019-05-09T09:15:09","date_gmt":"2019-05-09T08:15:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.weddingdates.co.uk\/blog\/?p=45015"},"modified":"2019-05-09T09:28:12","modified_gmt":"2019-05-09T08:28:12","slug":"groom-improvement-getting-reluctant-groom-involved-planning-big-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/weddingdates.co.uk\/blog\/groom-improvement-getting-reluctant-groom-involved-planning-big-day\/","title":{"rendered":"Groom for Improvement: Getting a reluctant Groom Involved with planning the Big Day"},"content":{"rendered":"
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We’ve all heard the stories…Brides feeling like they’re planning the entire day themselves with no help from the groom or just not receiving the level of help they expect.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, there’s hope!\u00a0 We asked a leading Wedding Coordinator how best to get a reluctant Groom involved with planning for the Big Day. here’s what Tanya Hedley, former ‘Monica Geller’ of weddings at Newcastle\u2019s iconic and independent Vermont Hotel, had to share with us…<\/span><\/p>\n

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“In my experience, there are two types of Groom.<\/span><\/p>\n

Those who Mary Fiore referred to a “NIDs” or\u00a0Not Into Details<\/em>\u00a0(if you know, you know) and those who are a driving force in the planning and organisation.\u00a0 Whichever type of Groom you’re dealing with, chances are there’ll be times when you wish you had the other (sometimes there’s just no pleasing us).<\/span><\/p>\n

Tensions run high when you’re planning a wedding.\u00a0 Just think about it, you’re project managing a huge, once-in-a-lifetime event with so many variables and so much at stake – then you go home together!<\/span><\/p>\n

During work hours you’re firing emails to each other, trying to get sh*t done.\u00a0 During your time together it’s all you can talk about.\u00a0 You’ve curbed the fun stuff to save for the wedding.\u00a0 You’re crossing off lists, having difficult discussions and juggling a budget.\u00a0 Let me put it this way – there’s a reason we don’t live with our bosses or work with our partners (and if you do either, then we salute you).<\/span><\/p>\n

If your partner wants to be involved then lucky you!\u00a0 Sure it’s hard to relinquish control but if you micromanage everything you’re setting a dangerous precedent – don’t be surprised when you really do need his help if he’s not there to give it.\u00a0 Play to his strengths, you will be pleasantly surprised.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you have a NID on your hands, just remember this – if you want him to offer an opinion he must first know that it will be valued.\u00a0 You can’t get frustrated with him for “not caring” if you completely discount his opinion when he dares give it (just a little food for thought\u00a0?).<\/span><\/p>\n

Watching a couple deal with the wedding planning told me a lot about how they would problem solve for the rest of their relationship.\u00a0 Compromise, patience and the occasional “time out” – go show ’em all how it’s done!”<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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