If you already have children before you tie the knot, including your little cherubs in your celebrations is a no-brainer. They are already the centre of your universe and what better way to cement your unity as a family than by having them present on your special day. However, if this is your second marriage or if you both have kids from a previous relationship, things can get a little tricky when it comes to blended families. Ensuring everyone is comfortable with the idea by talking and communicating updates is a good starting point, you will want to involve them in every step of the way from the off. Including each child in your wedding will create an air of excitement and reassure any worries they may have about this big change.
Give The Bride Away
If the bride’s father isn’t around to walk her up the aisle, asking an older son to give her away is a lovely gesture. The honour of this role is sure to strike a few chords and will bring home how important he is in both your lives.
Make Them Members Of Your Bridal Party
The girls will go crazy for this one and asking them to be bridesmaids is a guaranteed hit. Imagine the excitement of going shopping for dresses. It’s almost too much to handle!
An Important Task For Smaller Kids
Younger children and toddlers will be oblivious to the complications of the modern family. Of course, you will want them involved in your wedding for the added cute factor. The obvious choices are ring bearer and flower girl. Smaller tasks such as sign holder or helping a family member to decorate the bridal suite with petals later in the evening, will make them feel super important.
Include Them In The Speeches
A parent marrying a new spouse can be a tough time for youngsters. It’s wise to remember that this will confirm their fear: both parents have moved on and will unlikely rekindle. Mentioning your children in your reception speech will go a long way when it comes to transitioning smoothly into this new chapter. Pay particular attention to how excited you are to become a bigger family and thank each child individually for their help throughout the planning process. Reaffirm the special role they play in your life and get your new partner to say a few special words on what it means to become their official step-parent.
Ask Them To Do A Reading
Include slightly older children in your ceremony by asking them to do a reading. If they have a special talent such as playing a musical instrument, it’s the perfect time for them to shine by showing off their gift to family and friends.
Have A Child-Friendly Hen & Stag
If you or your partner has child in their teens who will be disappointed at the thought of being left out of your pre-wedding celebration, a more PG bash is a must to make them feel included. Singling out a teen who is two or three years short of the legal age for alcohol consumption is a big no no. It is sure to set your festivities off on a bad note. For the boys, a round of golf or a group activity such as paintball is a great alternative. While the girls will feel extra special if you treat them to a relaxing spa day.
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